When we're young, we often imagine having children when we grow up. As we get older, we start to hear it from others: "When you have a daughter of your own..." or "That'll be a story you'll tell your son someday." We're raised to take for granted a family made up of parents and children. This becomes an expectation, both from ourselves and from others.
Therefore, if as an adult you decide that you want to start a family, but conception or pregnancy proves problematic, it can be very discouraging in many ways. At the heart of it is a deeply held idea of what a family looks like, and suddenly that foundation is shaken. Then come the emotions of loss – both of a person and of a vision for the future – often followed by feelings of inferiority or guilt. There is also the feeling that you have disappointed others, whether it is your partner who was hoping for a daughter or son, or your parents who are expecting a grandchild.
What people who struggle with infertility go through is devastating. We're sure you know someone who has struggled to have a baby. Maybe it was you, hoping month after month to see a positive pregnancy test result, or praying you wouldn't have another miscarriage and being disappointed every time. Countless people have been in this situation, trying every known technique to boost their fertility, only to face loss again.
All of these people can attest: infertility is one of the greatest mysteries of our time. At first glance, it seems like a biological process that should run smoothly. In practice, it is often a source of frustration, confusion, disappointment, self-blame, and despair. Although the medical community has developed methods that help some people create the families they dream of, the main problem remains: why do so many people who want to start a family encounter difficulties along the way?
Infertility is a sign of our times. In our modern world, women and men face so many challenges, from stress to pollutants and pathogens. This overload takes a toll on the body, sometimes with the heartbreaking result of someone being unable to conceive. Believe it or not, infertility is not just a result of change for the worse, it is also a byproduct of progress. Women were once expected to start a family young, with few alternatives to this norm. Much of a woman’s attention was focused on conceiving at an early age, and because of the mind-body connection, this meant that the body’s reserves were directed towards the reproductive system.
Women today have many more opportunities. While women still don’t get all the respect and freedom they deserve, the role of women in society is much more developed than it used to be. Getting pregnant at a young age is often no longer a priority—and rightly so. Many women choose to get an education, explore different career paths, and travel in early adulthood rather than have children right away. They take their time to find the right partner, rather than settle for someone who meets the expectations of others. They strive to live their lives to truly discover themselves before starting a family.
So, if the time comes when a woman’s priorities shift and she’s ready to get pregnant, her body isn’t necessarily ready. Sometimes it’s due to anti-fertility practices, foods, or chemicals that a woman has been unknowingly exposed to in her life. Sometimes it’s due to a hidden illness that she didn’t know about until now that could disrupt her family plans. And often, it’s the reproductive system that’s at play, needing a recharge of energy and attention. (Of course, sometimes it’s none of the above, and we actually need to look at the male side of the equation.)
In his book The Most Beneficial Foods , Anthony William tells the story of a patient named Monica who came to him in agony over her inability to conceive. At the time, she was 38 years old and considered motherhood to be one of her life’s goals. Yet, each time she did conceive, she soon miscarried. Monica felt tired, helpless, worried that her window of fertility was closing, and she didn’t want to give up hope. “I just don’t understand,” she said. “I thought having children was supposed to be the most natural thing in the world. Why do I feel like I’m fighting some kind of desperate battle?”
When Anthony William did a reading on her problems, the Spirit of Compassion revealed that a hidden viral problem was draining the "battery" of her reproductive system ( a concept we will explore further down in the article ), preventing her from ovulating properly. All of her body's energy was being directed toward fighting the virus. Before she could be in the best shape possible to carry a baby, she needed to heal and redirect her body's resources to her reproductive system. Following Anthony William's guidance, which we share in this article, Monica finally gave birth to a healthy boy a year later, and a girl three years later. With proper care of her reproductive system, she realized her dream of becoming a mother.
It’s time for more people to experience healing like Monica’s, so that our society can progress with a true understanding of how fertility works. In this article, we’ll explore all of the above, including the principles of how the female reproductive system works that are not yet known to science, as well as how to give your body the optimal care it craves to have the best chance of giving birth to a healthy baby. If you’ve been all over the place and tried everything, there’s still hope. Infertility is not something you’ve done to yourself. It’s not a punishment, a label, or a life sentence. Your desire to expand your family is not only natural, but noble: our survival as a species depends on caring and dedicated people like you to raise the new generations that will carry us into the future.
The future of the human race
For the survival of the human race, it is imperative that the fertility rate on the planet begins to reverse. This may surprise you. As Anthony Williams has mentioned in his books, despite the apparent population growth, humanity is heading for a major demographic crisis. You might think that while infertility is devastating personally for the people it affects, it won't stop the world's population from continuing to grow. The truth is, we are heading for a very different future than the growth models predict. Right now, yes, the number of people on earth is still increasing. However, we are approaching a plateau as the fertility rate is rising sharply. In forty years, as many as 50 percent of women of childbearing age will be unable to have children. The total population will begin to decline.
If we want to stay afloat in the challenges ahead, the time to understand and address the infertility situation is right now. The future doesn't have to be bleak. There are steps you can take to protect your reproductive health to ensure a bright future.
Hidden cause of infertility
We’re all familiar with the concept of a dead battery. Ever since rechargeable batteries were invented, we’ve had to remember to keep them charged – with varying degrees of success. Have you ever had your phone run out of power in the middle of the day because you forgot to turn it on the night before? We’ve all watched the little battery icon dwindle to red, knowing that our device is struggling to draw power and that it won’t be long before it stops working at all – unless we charge it again.
If the human body were equipped with an indicator light, most women struggling with infertility would see a low battery warning. That’s because a woman’s reproductive system is like a battery: it needs proper care, forethought, and attention to keep it charged and functioning at its full potential. If you’re a woman struggling with infertility, chances are your reproductive system needs a recharge.
Many women who have been trying to conceive for a while now say they pay a lot of attention to their reproductive system so that its batteries are working at full capacity. They eat well, track their cycles, use positive visualization – all of that. Anthony William has always encouraged such women that these are excellent steps to take, they just need to know some secrets about how the reproductive system works to take their efforts to the next level.
Reproductive system with a dead battery
First, it's important to understand how the reproductive system is depleted. The main factor is birth control. Many women these days take birth control pills in the hope of avoiding unwanted pregnancy until they're at a stage in their lives where they're ready to conceive. As we mentioned at the beginning of this article, of course, it's vital for women to progress in society and have the freedom to choose how their lives unfold. You just need to be aware that if you've been taking birth control, your body has learned to divert resources away from your reproductive system. Some women may start taking the pill (or any form of contraceptive) as early as high school and continue until their late 20s or beyond. Some who started taking the pill in their teens and stopped taking it after graduating from college in the hopes of starting a family right away may have been taking it for eight years. That's eight years of their body being trained not to have children. This doesn't mean it's guaranteed that they'll have trouble conceiving when they stop taking the pill, it just means that if they do, it's a likely factor.
Other forms of contraception, from abstinence to barrier contraceptives, can have a similar effect because the more years a woman goes without getting pregnant, the less energy her reproductive system has to expend, and the more her body learns the pattern of maintaining pregnancy. (Of course, a low battery doesn't mean no battery; many women can attest to having conceived when they were actively trying to avoid pregnancy.)
This doesn't mean that women shouldn't postpone having children - not at all. It's just important to understand that when going from avoiding pregnancy to trying for it, the body may need some time and support to adapt.
Recharging the reproductive battery
Have you ever left your car sitting in the garage for too long? You were busy or maybe you were away and when you finally got a chance to get back behind the wheel and turn the key, you heard the engine choke as it tried to draw power from the battery? That's because, as we all know, a car needs time on the move so the alternator can keep the battery charged. Once you finally got the engine started, all your car probably needed was a good, long drive and then some consistent time on the road to get it back to running condition.
While the workings of the female body, especially its reproductive system, are of course much more complex and mysterious than those of a car, the maintenance mentality is the same one you should apply to your quest for fertility. A woman’s reproductive system has its own soul with a specific set of needs. In addition to avoiding certain anti-fertility factors, consuming a variety of life-giving, fertility-boosting foods, and utilizing spiritual techniques—all of which we’ll explore later in the article—a critical part of how to send your body the message that you’re ready to have a baby is learning how to consciously rewire your system so that you’re ready to create new life.
This is different from focusing on your desire to conceive. It's not the same as the meditations we'll mention at the end of this article. It's about physically engaging that mind-body connection so that your body learns that it's time to start dedicating resources to each part of your reproductive system to get it back in working order.
Here's the exercise: Imagine plugging a cord into your reproductive system to charge it. Imagine how every part of your reproductive system—from your uterus to your fallopian tubes to your ovaries—draws energy from this source.
It may sound crazy or abstract, but it's still a very powerful technique, and it works. Our bodies are highly attuned to technology these days. Our eyes are glued to screens from morning to night, gadgets wrapped around our wrists track our every move, and our phones are always within arm's reach. As a result of this constant exposure to technology, our bodies are really getting used to the concept of being plugged in.
The key is to do the exercises regularly so that they become part of your daily routine. If you have a regular schedule for turning on your phone, such as every night before bed, follow the same routine to visualize yourself physically recharging. If you and your partner are struggling with infertility, if you have both seen a doctor and can't find any reason for your difficulties, this technique, combined with the other healing tips in this article, could be the element that turns everything around.
Men and fertility
To increase male fertility, you need to go back to basics. There are no magic bullets, nor will an overly complicated approach help. Instead, you should focus on these simple steps to increase sperm count and motility.
First, it's important for men to reduce their mercury levels. Mercury in the body is a huge cause of decreased male fertility, so if you're a man trying to start a family, it's important to add spirulina , frozen wild blueberries , cilantro, garlic, barley grass juice powder , and Atlantic seaweed like dulse to your diet routine . And it's not just about taking some of these every now and then, you want to make this a daily protocol over a long period of time.
Additionally, the same diet that promotes female fertility also promotes male fertility, so men should make sure to get plenty of the foods that support it. And the anti-fertility foods and chemicals listed below are just as important to avoid for men as they are for women. Additionally, the herb ashwagandha can be very beneficial for male fertility, as can nettle leaves , red clover blossoms, vitamin B12 , and zinc .
Zinc is actually one of the most valuable minerals when it comes to male sperm health. It's important not only to eat foods rich in zinc (such as turnip greens, radishes, artichokes, nettle leaves, parsley, and onions) and possibly take zinc supplements , but it's also important to maintain zinc levels by refraining from ejaculations that are not intended to produce offspring, as frequent ejaculations increase the likelihood of sperm being sluggish, lethargic, and malnourished, both from overuse and from the loss of zinc stores with each ejaculation. Instead, abstain for the best chance of strong, healthy sperm.
Factors that interfere with fertility
If you’re trying to have a baby, you definitely need to limit your exposure to toxins. And if you’ve read Anthony William’s book , “The Most Healthy Foods ,” then you also know that the Merciless Four are a threat to everyone’s health. Radiation, DDT, toxic heavy metals , and a surge in viruses all have a direct impact on fertility levels, and the best way to combat the risk is with the help of awareness and the healing power of food. It’s also important to know that there are other hidden factors, including foods, chemicals, and actions, that can jeopardize fertility and drain your reproductive battery. To give yourself the best chance of conceiving and having a healthy pregnancy, pay attention to the information that follows.
Foods that interfere with fertility
If you have been trying to conceive and have not been able to conceive for no apparent reason, it would be a good idea to avoid foods that contain high levels of adrenaline. These are foods of animal origin (chicken, turkey, lamb and other types of meat, fish and dairy products) and due to the high level of stress that the animal experienced during its slaughter or capture, they are saturated with adrenaline. It acts as a contraceptive and although many women consume meat and manage to get pregnant, others are very sensitive to its negative effects, even in insignificant amounts. You could reduce your intake of animal food by 50% or consume the meat of small animals, such as birds, including pheasants and chickens, since their adrenal glands are very small. After you give birth, you will be able to eat whatever you want again.
Other foods that can trigger and worsen conditions such as polycystic ovary syndrome, endometriosis, salpingitis, uterine fibroids, and ovarian cysts—and thus interfere with fertility—are eggs, corn, wheat, canola oil, dairy products, aspartame, and monosodium glutamate (be wary of products containing it), as well as conventionally grown, unsprouted soybeans. If you have polycystic ovary syndrome or endometriosis and are told to eat eggs, don’t be fooled. This advice is not based on truth. Eggs not only help with these conditions, they actually promote them by feeding the pathogens that cause them. (You can read more about eggs and other harmful foods in Anthony William’s book , The Most Useful Foods .)
Chemicals that interfere with fertility
When you're pregnant or trying to conceive, you need to protect your reproductive system from the attacks of phytotoxic hormones—chemicals found in pesticides, herbicides, and plastics that disrupt hormone balance. Try to limit your exposure to these harmful substances in every way you can. Also, avoid chlorine and fluoride.
Actions that interfere with fertility
As we mentioned earlier in the article, spending years not wanting a baby or looking for the right partner—while taking steps to avoid getting pregnant—can sometimes mean that your body becomes accustomed to not conceiving. So if you had this mindset in the past and now want to have a baby, you may need to take proactive measures, such as the recharging exercise above, to rewire your reproductive system.
Another major factor in problematic conception in women is high stress levels. The functioning of the reproductive system is hampered not only by foods rich in adrenaline, but also by the excess adrenaline produced by the body when a person is under great stress. Then the body's defense mechanisms are activated. If you are experiencing strong emotional excitement or another form of severe stress, the body instinctively tries to prevent the additional stress that the baby would cause to the body. The adrenaline released during the "fight or flight" reaction also acts as a steroid, preventing conception. (Some steroids produced by the body - for example, thyroxine from the thyroid gland - favor fertility.)
Adrenal fatigue can also interfere with conception, as the adrenal glands are involved in the synthesis of progesterone, estrogen, and testosterone in a woman. When these glands are hypo- or hyperactive, it is a sign of a hormonal imbalance that would prevent pregnancy. If you have problems with the adrenal glands and want a child, it would be best to make it a habit to eat (every hour and a half to two) - this way the glands will not have to work overtime to compensate for the drop in blood sugar levels. The foods that follow will also help the body cope with stress without going to extremes.
Fertility meditations
A woman's reproductive system has its own soul. This means that when you are trying to develop her fertility, it is important to take something beyond the physical steps mentioned above. There is a very real element of spiritual nurturing in this regard. Just as partners try to get in sync with each other when trying to conceive, it is important to get in touch, soul to soul, with your own reproductive system. The meditations that follow offer an opportunity to do this, and they also serve as powerful stress coping methods.
Meditation in motion
During this meditative walk, tell your reproductive system that it is allowed to conceive. Give it your full support. Honor it as a separate and sacred being, connected directly to the heavens, and realize that up until now it may have felt isolated. It hears you and wants to be respected. Do not bombard it with demands, but encourage it with love, as you would communicate with a child dear to your heart who listens to your guidance but has been afraid to blossom. Call upon the Angel of Fertility for support. Make this walking meditation part of your daily routine. Each time you finish, ask yourself if you feel like you have truly given your reproductive system permission to conceive and that it has heard you.
Inhaling white light
Lying on your back in a quiet room, take deep, gentle breaths with your eyes closed. Imagine that your mouth and nose are at your lower abdomen, and that with each breath you are bringing white light directly into your reproductive organs. This is an exercise that is intended to enhance the recharge of your womb. When you are so busy that you are constantly breathing rapidly, moving from one stressful situation to the next, the body learns to focus on dealing with crises. Everything happens in the head, so your precious resources are directed there. By taking the time to do this breathing meditation, you are training your mind and body to lower that attention. As you take in heavenly light into your reproductive system, you are reminding yourself physically and spiritually that right now you are truly focused not on the noise of everyday life, but on this sacred mission.
As you pursue this calling, know that it will affect every aspect of your life. The intention to conceive carries a powerful charge. It unfolds, touches others, and changes your life, no matter what. If despite your efforts you do not have a child, do not lose faith in a higher good or in your worth. Do not blame yourself. Whatever the outcome, the efforts made to conceive a child are never in vain. So many things in life are a process of conception and birth. This is how every great idea is realized, and this is how every seed grows into a great, sheltering tree. The energy you have invested in the hope of new life will be redirected into something else new and beautiful. Every time you focus on new life, you achieve harmony with the divine and give something good to the world.
